Now choose life, that you and your children may live. Deuteronomy 30:19

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Dr. Peter Breggin’s new concept of medication spellbinding provides insights into why so many people take psychiatric drugs when the drugs are doing more harm than good. Psychiatric drugs, and all other drugs that affect the mind, spellbind the individual by masking their adverse mental effects from the individual taking the drugs. If the person experiences a mental side effect, such as anger or sadness, he or she is likely to attribute it to something other than drug, perhaps blaming it on a loved one or on their own “mental illness.” Often people taking psychiatric drugs claim to feel better than ever when in reality their mental life and behavior is impaired. In the extreme, medication spellbinding leads otherwise well-functioning and ethical individuals to commit criminal acts, violence or suicide.


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Why are so many young people ending their own lives? It seems conventional methods to combat depression aren’t helping. The numbers of suicide deaths have been rising over the years and they continue to rise. 

What is happening? Why aren't the numbers of suicide deaths going down, with all the antidepressants people are using?

Suicide happens within the church body. It did with us. We are an average family, living on a farm in Northeast Missouri, the Heartland.



Facing the realities of teen suicide

September 29, 2022

I’m posting this article with permission from Denise George, bestselling author, mentor and teacher. Visit her website here. Her work here is very thorough, which includes comments on the Netflix series “13 Reasons Why.” Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash Facing the realities of teen suicide

Is there any hope?

September 28, 2022

Since our Toby died in May of 2016, my husband, Tim, and I have been all over the U.S. and other countries, talking about suicide with people. We also share our faith in Jesus. There have been many interesting conversations had. We’ve learned a lot and shed many tears together. We have been astounded how…

Hope & Light

September 27, 2022

by Dawn Whitcomb   Suicide touched my life on the crisp clear morning on Friday November 6th , 2015 at 10:30am. The day my beautiful 18-year-old son Dylan took his life. That morning the self that I knew took flight and another one emerged. Dylan was a compassionate, kind and lover of all things. Although…

Risky behavior – signs of suicide & assuming

April 22, 2022

Assuming your teen will react to common situations the same way you did when you were growing up I would fish through my seventeen year old son’s truck when he didn’t know it and look for any evidence of party paraphernalia. I did find a couple beer cans in the bed of his truck- of…

Side effect: Suicide

February 11, 2022

“When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.”― Thomas Sowell Parents care about their children and are afraid and don’t want to be negligent when their child has a bout of depression, self harm, reckless behavior, or suicidal ideation.…

Men cry too

January 27, 2022

Wow, my husband. He really surprised me this morning. He just passed his 56th birthday; we’re well into middle age. I told him I said something to Taylor this morning about the cold and it made me think of the song, “Cold As Ice” by Foreigner. She didn’t know anything about it, I mean it…

How will you share your story?

January 19, 2022

You have a story. We all have a story. This is my story. Big Daddy Weave, We Are Messengers, and me. Oct. 29, 2017, Sunday evening. I went by myself.. doing grief alone, a lot. I had even made a post on social media asking if someone would want to go with me. One friend…

School Lunches Suck

January 6, 2022

By Toby Gottman Can we take a moment to smile? Maybe even laugh? This was a persuasive essay written by Toby, dated Dec. 15, 2015. So, Toby was seventeen at that time. Although proper nutrition is very important to overall health and therefore to mental health, I’m only sharing this article to show Toby’s personality.…

Hypoglycemia is a cause of alcoholism

January 2, 2022

I shared my post “Not caring if you die is passive suicidal ideation – signs of suicide” with a private social media pharma drug awareness group. I asked for constructive feedback. This is what the administrator of the group wrote. You want feedback? You need to get to the core of all those issues &…

Not caring if you die is passive suicidal ideation – signs of suicide

December 17, 2021

My niece, Kayla*, was born to a single mom, my only sister, Nicole*. That was in 1996. Kayla was around eight months old when I took care of her for a week, while my sister went to the Bahamas with a man and a girlfriend of hers. Our mom took her for the second week.…